This is a really tough one for me to post today. After this week's events, is there really a benefit in all of the tragedy? When I created this calendar, I wasn't expecting a crazed gunman to kill 17 people this week.
But finding a benefit, even in tragedy, doesn't discount our anger and sadness regarding it. Finding a benefit helps us cope when we feel like we've reached the end of our rope, when we feel like darkness is surrounding us.
When I got laid off last year, I tried immediately to look for a benefit. That didn't mean I wasn't pissed off. That didn't mean I wasn't utterly sad. That didn't mean I didn't question my worth. What it did was help me get through one of the toughest times in my life. Looking for a benefit in that situation helped me see some sparkle of light through the darkness.
Right now, the only benefit I can find in this tragedy is it's causing me to hug my daughter a little tighter. But it's something. The benefit of deep, intense love for that little spirit helps me cope when I feel like the world has gone dark.
So feel your feelings. Get angry. Get sad. But look for the light. Light is the only thing that will heal.